It’s very hard to be spiritually awakened — to know that there’s meaning in literally everything and that we’re all connected — in a world where it seems like the vast majority of people are stuck in the matrix. It’s hard just to be a person, period. Also, it’s hard dating even as a normal person in the matrix. So, when you throw these two things together — spiritual dating — it is really hard. Like almost impossible.
Dating apps are a lesson in how fucked up most of humanity is. It’s wild to be able to swipe through a multitude of people who are just completely out of touch with nature, with reality, and with their souls. They don’t know who they are, so they’re seeking someone else to help define them. They don’t know what love is, so they seek someone else to show them instead of looking within for it. They feel like a connection with another person is going to solve all their problems, however superficial. They’re also attached to material possessions and status. Whether they want a relationship or just sex, they are lost.
We have to work on ourselves before we can invite someone else into our lives.
Spiritual people recognize and own up to their flaws. They analyze past experiences and then try not to repeat history. They want to rid themselves of cycles and graduate to a new level of existence. Even if they aren’t at the place they want to be currently, they have the will to get better. This is sexy as hell.
However, when you appear to be the only one trying to be your best, trying to do what’s right, and trying to be honest with yourself, it gets lonely. It gets weird. You start to think that you have to settle for someone who isn’t emotionally mature and who is disconnected from the world because that’s all that seems to be out there. Spiritual dating leaves you a little depressed.
Dating Teaches Us Soul Lessons
I believe that we get the lessons that are meant for us, and with dating, it is no different. Dating is a great learning experience for the soul. The way you interact with new people and how you treat them speaks volumes.
If you’re able to treat someone with respect who you don’t plan to ever see again, then you’re self-aware. If you’re able to discern who is good for you and who is toxic, then you are strong. You can learn to walk away when it’s not going to work. You can listen to your intuition more and more, and be honest with yourself and others. This is what it means to be spiritual.
It’s an Uphill Battle
I have friends who are dating, just like me, and it’s hard. It’s like the world keeps disappointing us, and we are doing our best to level up spiritually, but we just keep getting defeated. Sometimes it seems like all we ever get are lessons, and it goes round and round. Do you feel this, too?
Part of the struggle is wondering if it will work out to date someone who isn’t spiritual. Can I be with someone who doesn’t see the deep connections and meaning that surrounds us in the entire universe? Can I settle for someone who doesn’t believe in miracles?
Most of Them Don’t Get It
It’s also hard to deal with the belief system that we have and how it affects others. Some people I date just don’t care about my tarot readings and meditation classes, some people take an interest in it but don’t really get it, and some are downright afraid of it.
The person could be a catch on matrix-level terms, but if they’re afraid of spiritual concepts like mediumship and psychic abilities, then I can’t be with them. That high-powered accountant who lives in a fancy apartment with a great view can go ahead and date some other girl who isn’t self-aware and just wants to talk about surface-level stuff like which wine they want to drink and what’s on Netflix.
Men who think they can impress me with money, status, and their car, will never resonate with me. I am impressed with healing and transformation.
I don’t want to connect with someone over hobbies and movies. I want a deep soul-level connection. I want to share my life purpose with them and support them in theirs. If they don’t even know their life purpose, then that’s hard to do. But that’s how most of these guys are.
So, dating in the 21st century is hard, and spiritual dating is even harder. It feels like torture sometimes. I sometimes think I’d way rather be alone.
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