I have recently learned that distracting myself from my inner pain is not helpful to my healing journey. I must face it. But it seems that society recommends numbing ourselves from feeling hurt and sad. So, it’s a twofold battle: against the inner tendencies to distract oneself and against the world that’s telling you to give in to those tendencies. But I wanted to offer a different perspective: I’ll explain from my experience how to process trauma on your own.
But we have to feel the pain. The intense sadness, grief, hurt, confusion, and shock must be processed, and sometimes all it takes is a few moments of focus on it for significant healing to take place.
You have to do very little. It’s more about not-doing. All you have to do is sit with it. Don’t struggle against it. No resistance. Let it be in you. Let it come to the surface and face it courageously.
We are more familiar with the healing that takes place in our physical bodies than we are with the healing in our spiritual and emotional realms. But both are energy fields; make no mistake. They work in the same way. So, you must detox your system by allowing the natural flow of your feelings. Some of the baggage you’re holding onto deep inside wants to surface and be let go of.
Your mind wants to heal. Your energy wants to detox. All you have to do is allow it and stop resisting.
The pain is part of you but you don’t have to let it control your life. You can feel it without suffering. You can mourn and let the emotions flow out into the universe. When someone hurts you, it’s important to process it without hanging onto the judgments. Don’t let the pain define you — but let it be what it needs to be.
So, if you’ve endured some trauma, take time to process it. It might have happened thirty years ago and it might have happened yesterday. It could be deeply rooted in your subconscious by now, but it’s never too late to open yourself to healing.
The point is that to heal, you have to do very little. You really just have to sit still. You have to let the pain overcome you and let it be with you for a little while.
You’ll know how long you need to sit with it. It might be only as much as you can take in a minute or two, and it might need a day or two. The sun will come out again and you will return to a more stable state. But as long as you carry the pain with you in your shadow, pushed away where you don’t have to pay attention to it, you will sometimes be debilitated by it.
Trauma needs to be processed or it can become a great burden.
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