Do you love yourself? Often, we are unconscious of the ways that we abuse ourselves from within. We all have inner struggles and conflicts. If you know your twin flame, then you have the rare opportunity to experience these conflicts before your eyes, as this person mirrors your deepest insecurities and speaks your most secret versions of yourself aloud. They embody your self-love and your self-loathing.
This is a good thing. You can’t heal unless you’re painfully aware of your inner agonies. You can’t make a step in the right direction unless you are made conscious of the arguments you’re having inside you.
So many people have found my articles and connected with me about their twin flame journeys, and I have learned a lot through their stories. I am now a twin flame coach, but in many ways, I might as well be a self-love coach. I don’t think we can ever learn enough about self-love. Through twin flame love and the spiritual experience of meeting a twin flame, we are forced to reckon with it. I continue to expand my wisdom on the topic, never ceasing to be in awe of the wild love stories I am privileged to hear.
My twin flame absolutely threw my own lack of self-love in my face. Or was it me throwing it in my own face?
Twin flames are mirrors, often painfully so. Your twin flame brings to light all that is not settled within you. This varies from person to person, but we all have the struggle of self-love in common.
If you’re lacking in self-love…
It will be hard to unite with your twin flame. They’re you. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love them. It’ll be hard to love anyone, but especially your twin flame. You have to work on yourself.
How do you work on your self-love? There’s no easy way.
It’s painful to confront the state of your inner love. The shadow inside you tells you that you don’t deserve love, you aren’t worthy, you aren’t good enough, and to run away from real love. Instead, you crave situations of toxic love where you think you’re being treated the way you deserve.
So, when your twin flame and you are not accepting of your own inner love, you won’t be able to accept each other’s love, no matter how drawn you are to each other.
It’s such a hard situation. You have to reverse the script within you. The narrative telling you that love isn’t attainable must be stopped. Lots of self-reflection is needed.
If you’re doing well in self-love…
You may notice that your union with your twin flame feels a little easier than some of the wild and dramatic stories you read on the internet about twin flames. This is because you’ve worked on your self-love. But don’t ever become complacent, please. Twin flames never cease to bring surprises.
It’s not a great idea to heal and find self-love just so you can be with this person. The goal of self-love should be self-love, full stop. It shouldn’t be a means to an end. It is an end in itself.
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Remember that you’re mirrors of each other.
Whatever happens, you’ll do well not to forget that you and your twin flame reflect each other. Whatever you can say about your feelings toward them is a representation of your feelings toward yourself. Keep looking within. Happiness is found within, and so is misery. Solving the problem with the relationship will never happen unless you solve the problem inside you first.
No one outside you, even your twin flame, can complete you. You were already enough.
Hi, I’m Emily. I write about consciousness, metaphysics, and deep considerations of existence. I’m also the author of the book Twin Flames and the Love Story Within.
I have a master’s degree in philosophy, I am a certified meditation teacher, I read tarot, I create podcasts, and I coach others on the twin flame journey. For more about what I offer, have a look at my services. If my writing helps you and you’re looking for a way to support me, you’re always welcome to buy me a coffee.
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