There are teachings about twin flames that you may find on the internet about how to behave, think, and operate in order to get your twin flame back in your life. But I’m here to tell you a secret: it’s not that simple. Twin flames aren’t a system of reward and punishment. They’re not meant to merely put fear in you to make you become a better person otherwise you won’t get to be with them. There’s more to this journey. It’s not that simple. The hidden secret of twin flame union is that it’s about your inner achievements.
This experience of twin flames is supposed to make you want to love yourself more and align more with your higher purpose. It should not be about “I will do ABC in order to get XYZ.” We should not be encouraged to pursue self-development because that will cause someone else to behave differently. This would only result in a superficial and temporary change of behavior. And yet, multiple sources of information about twin flames seem to make it seem this way.
We must learn to discern information that is appealing to the ego, which likes an easy solution that requires no fundamental change, from information that is connected to the soul.
Turn Your Focus Within
The prize at the end of it isn’t achieving “union” with your twin flame. It’s raising yourself to a new level of consciousness. It’s shedding the need for material things and understanding that all the valuable parts of your life are immaterial.
In every lifetime, we have the opportunity to achieve this new awareness. Your task is to get as close to it as you can now so you won’t have to repeat the suffering in your next lifetime.
This journey is about self-love, spiritual ascension, true happiness, and mental freedom. These things are so incredibly transformative and worthy of pursuit. You can only control your own inner world, so why not focus on that instead of trying to get a person to be in your life? Your twin flame may never be ready in this current lifetime. Learn to love yourself the way you love them.
It’s Not About the Reward of Union
If you attach yourself to the idea of a fairytale romantic happy ending and a full-blown relationship with your twin flame, you aren’t learning any of the spiritual lessons. You have to embrace self-love for the sake of a better life for yourself, independent of the situations, events, and relationships around you. When we do things for the sake of a promised reward (twin flame union) or to avoid punishment (never seeing your twin flame again), it’s no better than being good just because you are scared of going to hell.
This is how religions largely work. People don’t need to think for themselves because a set of instructions on how to behave has been given to them. They just do what they’re told. If they please God, they will be rewarded in this world or the next. Fear makes them good people, not the desire to be inherently good.
Likewise, if we are only good because we believe that will bring our twin flame back, then we aren’t good people. We’re only good when there’s a utility or a promise of a reward. But we need to be good because it’s good for the soul’s evolution.
Soul Evolution
So, if you’re wise, you will choose to develop yourself, practice self-love, and learn to live happily and independently just because it’s good for your soul. That was the purpose of the universe in bringing you to meet your twin flame — so you could transcend all attachments. This journey is all about letting go of the need for possessions, status, and relationships.
The goal of all things — not just the twin flame journey — is soul evolution, and oftentimes, that is a painful process. It means releasing your grip on things in the material world over and over until you finally realize that what’s truly important is on the higher planes — beyond the material world. In the case of twin flames, it means letting go of the outcome and letting things unfold, realizing that the only thing you can control is yourself.
It’s by no means easy. We all have grown attached to the outcome of things in our lives. We all naturally want a loving and lasting relationship with our twin flames so that we can be happy. Society and the ego create this longing for a loving relationship. But now is the time to realize that you can still have that happy ending for yourself. It should never depend on another human being’s presence in your life, even your twin flame.
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About Me
Hi, I’m Emily! I am also on the twin flame journey, as the experience of losing my twin flame awakened my psychic abilities and sent me on this path to help others.
