Recognize the energies to manifest what you seek.
Dating in the modern world can be daunting. Experiences on dating apps could scar you for life. Some of the behavior I have seen from men in my past few years of dating will shock you.
I didn’t even try dating apps until after my marriage when I was thirty-nine. In my twenties, there was no need for a service like that because I was out meeting people all the time. But when you’re a single parent, sometimes dating apps are your best bet.
But let’s be honest. The apps are hard to navigate. It’s incredibly strange to find yourself trying to figure out who you want to devote your precious time to from a limited bio, some pictures, and elected interests. And after a short time dating this way, you will quickly find yourself jaded and exhausted. People seem to be comfortable treating each other very poorly.
I want to give you some tips on how to have a good experience with dating apps from a spiritual perspective. Use your higher consciousness to spot a good dating profile and manifest what you seek. Hint: it’s going to require a bit of your intuition to discern, and you have to connect with subtle energies in order to be good at it.
Always allow the universe to bring you what you need via dating apps. Change your mindset about dating — and that’s when everything else changes.
When you’re having trouble dating, don’t blame the apps. Your mindset and energy are the real problem.
1. Put the energy in that you want to get back.
How do you know who is ready to date by looking at a simple profile? How can you spot someone who might match your energy? Everything is about intention. You have to approach it with the energy you want to get back. the real question you should be asking is: how do you create such a profile for yourself?
Your experience mirrors your inner world. This has never been more true than when you’re dating. Your relationships are all reflections of you. You may wonder what behavior you are willing to accept from a partner. Well, what do you accept from yourself? Perhaps you struggle with figuring out what kind of person are you worthy of dating. Instead, ask yourself if you feel valued (by yourself) on the inside. This will help you heal but also help you build a profile for yourself.
You have to create a profile with the energy you’d like to see from the person you are seeking. Would you want to meet someone in real life if they’ve given almost no information about them in their profile? Or if their pictures were old, weird, or limited?
You should post good pictures that tell a story about you. No fuzzy pictures, pictures of you wearing a mask, or anything that makes it hard to see who you are as a person. Give as much personality as you can in the space you’re provided. Take it as an opportunity to make a first impression. You attract people who have vague energy when you give out vague information about you.
You also have to create a bio with the kind of words that you’d want to see in someone else’s bio. Be interesting and exciting. At a bare minimum, write something. Tell us something unique.
Give us a reason to want to meet you. Being “too cool” for a bio doesn’t win in the dating app world.
Overall, the effort you put into your profile is obvious to the viewer. Intuitive people know that this is the same amount of effort you’ll be willing to put into a relationship. Intention matters.
2. Keep a mindset of hope and positivity.
If you approach dating with hurt, anger, and resentment from previous experiences, then this is what you’ll continue to manifest. The problem is that people often seek a new relationship as a cure-all. They think that they’ll find someone who is perfect for them and who will take away all the pain, heartbreak, or drama from their lives. But this isn’t how it works.
If you want to attract someone great, then be someone great. If you want a miracle to happen, you have to keep opening yourself to it. Stay hopeful and grateful. Don’t stay angry.
Anger attracts anger. If you are upset about the last person you dated, and you approach a new person with that energy (even if it’s unspoken and just seems to exist in your mind), you may find that the new person begins to mirror the qualities that you want to avoid. You will find yourself pulling in other people who have the same patterns as you.
This is why I religiously avoid any dating profile that even mentions the word “drama” or says anything about anyone else’s drama. When someone says anything negative in their profile — especially anything about their anger or resentment about dating — I immediately swipe left. If you are tired of the drama, don’t say so upfront.
People who dwell on other people’s “dramatic” behavior are usually projecting. And when you spew negativity, your words begin to manifest your reality.
And most of all, know that if you expect the worst to happen, then that is what you will manifest.
3. Communicate with focus and compassion.
So many people make the mistake of communicating haphazardly when they’re meeting potential new lovers. For reasons I mentioned above, it’s easy to fall into a mindset of resentment and to allow this to show up in communication. But you must try not to do this.
When people don’t respond in a timely way, give short and meaningless responses, and don’t show that they value the other person in the conversation, it can only be an indication of what is to come if a relationship should start. So, start the whole thing off by communicating with focus on that person — at least give it a chance to develop!
When you focus your mental energy on something, that’s when it blooms into something beautiful. I’m not saying that every conversation you have when you’re starting to date will be amazing. But you are in charge of your energy, and only you can determine if that will be focused and compassionate energy, or if it will be erratic, confused, or resentful. Always approach people with empathy even if you don’t like what they’re doing.
When you date with compassion and intention, you’ll find yourself attracting more joy in life. Not every date with lead somewhere, but you always have an opportunity to be grateful for the person’s time and the lessons they taught you instead of being mad that they didn’t live up to your expectations. Clear and kind communication is good, even if you never see the person again.
Always communicate with the thought that this could be your person. Your communication efforts could determine where the relationship will go in the future.
Your energy matters, so clean it up. Stay positive when you’re dating. Never close yourself off to any possibilities, and be careful not to harbor anger or resentment.
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