You have the ability at any moment to be a totally liberated human being. What does this mean? You are able to find happiness. Whatever circumstances surround you, you can climb your way out through the power of your own mind. If you’re living in what seems like a prison, you can adopt a new mindset and it will feel like absolute freedom. You could do this right now if you wanted to.
But generally, we choose not to. And that blows my mind.
People have the opportunity anytime to change their perspective on situations, but they hang on to them instead. They build their own walls. They construct their own mental prisons even when the world around them could seem beautiful — because it is.
Although it blows my mind, I know why they do it. Somehow, the pain is comforting. Our trauma feels like it’s part of us and it’s tempting to define ourselves by it. We know it weighs us down but we also kind of like it. Isn’t that weird?
We like to tell other people how hard our lives have been. Some of us even enjoy making it some kind of competition, as if suffering is equated to a badge of honor.
We like to feel sorry for ourselves and surrender to the idea that life sucks. This feels like creating insurance against future calamities.
We like to say that the pain makes us who we are. Some of us are even proud of our negative personality traits and our scars that we identify as results of the pain.
We even like to live in denial of all of this and tell people that what we’re doing is totally normal — and that anyone living in mental freedom just doesn’t understand life.
But guess what? Your pain doesn’t define you. Your suffering isn’t you.
Your job isn’t you.
Your responsibilities in your family aren’t you.
Your citizenship, culture, and ethnicity aren’t you.
I’ll go further. You aren’t you.
To find bliss, you have to let go of who you are. There’s a layer of you that is hanging on tightly to all this shit going on around you and it especially loves the trauma. Some people call this the ego. It wants to keep its grip on anything causing fear. It loves fear.
You aren’t your fear. You are made of love.
Fear like this is useful sometimes when there’s a real threat to our lives and we need to run or fight. But mostly, fear of being hurt isn’t helpful to our general existences.
To transcend this part of you, some deep reflection is needed. My readers already know how I feel about meditation. It is everything. It cures all, it liberates, and it gives you all the answers. To get past the ego mind, you should be meditating. Then, you’ll see that your pain, suffering, fear, and identity isn’t an essential part of you. You’re something greater.
You will see that you can loosen that grip a bit. Let the pain fade away. See the world with new eyes. It can be a beautiful and hopeful world no matter what is happening.
Non-attachment is the goal.
So please, if you’re so deep in your dark hole that you can’t see the light anymore, know that there’s always a chance for you. Stay unattached to your past. Stay ahead of your pain. Remain aware of who you really are — a soul.
You aren’t what you have convinced yourself you are. You’re beyond all of this.
The pain of your past is real but the suffering is a choice. Learn your lessons and then let the future unfold with infinite possibilities. If you hang on to the way something happened before, then it will inevitably happen again and again. You are committing yourself to it, after all.
Instead, decide for yourself that the past is the past and it doesn’t affect your future.
Let it all go. Start a new story.
Hi, I’m Emily. I write about consciousness, metaphysics, and deep considerations of existence. I have a master’s degree in philosophy, I am a certified meditation teacher, I read tarot, I create podcasts, and I coach others spiritually. For more about me, have a look at my services. If my writing helps you and you’re looking for a way to support me, you’re always welcome to buy me a coffee.
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