Your physical life isn’t the whole story.
I’ve spent a lot of the past year trying to figure out whether we cause the things that happen to us. I have concluded that we cause most of it ourselves. We attract a large portion of our circumstances— especially the day-to-day, seemingly mundane situations. The law of attraction means that negative thinking impacts our lives.
Don’t have enough money for what you need or want? Yeah, you caused that with your lack mindset. Lacking the depth in your romantic relationship that you so badly crave? Yep, you attracted this because you don’t have enough self-love. Wondering why nothing ever seems to work out? That’s all you and your feelings of unworthiness.
Now, I will argue that we cause most of the stuff happening to us — but not all. There are things in this world — such as corporate apartment complexes and fruit toppings on pizza— that are just there to suck the life out of you despite what you’ve done to be a good person.
However, there are things we attract. Your suffering is of your own making, largely. Let’s focus on what you can do to change your life.
As a disclaimer, I should say I am not totally “working it” with my own reality…yet. It’s funny how an understanding of these things is different from putting them into action. I’ll explain why this is the case.
The Law of Attraction
It’s simple but easy to forget. We live in a world where we are taught to believe that hard work leads to success and that everything that matters is on the surface — in the three dimensions. We’re taught to think that the hard work will pay off and it doesn’t matter if we step on others or have negative thoughts in our minds. We are conditioned to believe that our internal life doesn’t effect our external worlds.
The law of attraction is that you attract what you put out into the universe. You reap what you sow. You get what you give. It’s not complicated at all.
What goes into the world from your energy field is what will come back at you.
You might say, “But I am doing a good job and trying to be a good person!” Unfortunately, life is just never this straightforward.
Your Mental States Matter Most
What you do on this physical plane matters, but I argue that your mental life is what matters most. If you have an inner environment of fear, anxiety, self-hate, negative thoughts about life, negative thoughts about other people, and anything else that’s harmful, then what you do on the outside isn’t super relevant.
It’s almost worse to act “good” in the world while being violent on the inside.
If all you care about is what you’re visibly doing, then you’re missing a big piece of the puzzle. Your mind might be a mess while your life looks like it’s great — on the surface.
Change Your Mindset
Keeping your thoughts in check will change everything. the law of attraction also works with negative thinking. But this isn’t easy. I find myself sometimes slipping into periods when I am thinking terrible things about people who have wronged me. If I’m not careful, I start allowing my internal dialogue to spin a story about how the universe is against me and nothing ever works out. I tell myself I’m unworthy, too, and I am not good enough.
This is violence directed inward. When you allow this state of mind, you invite people and circumstances that match your beliefs.
Become strong. Rise above the dark thoughts. I find that meditation is the answer. With a regular meditation practice, I can be vigilant about my thoughts. This is the only way to become familiar with my own inner dialogue and to flip the script.
I find that when I am in a flow state and negative thoughts aren’t blocking me, good things begin to happen. Life gets easier.
Focus on cultivating self-love and gratitude.
Hi, I’m Emily. In addition to writing, I also teach meditation, read tarot, create podcasts, and practice spiritual coaching. I have a master’s in philosophy which often helps when I write about life.
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