Twin Flames and How to Start the Inner Work
Twin Flames and How to Start the Inner Work

Twin Flames and How to Start the Inner Work

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They see a chance for a relationship that will make them look inside themselves. They run. Your twin flame fears the inner work they may have to do to be with you.

This is nothing new. It’s the quintessential aspect of the twin flame journey. When you meet someone who mirrors you, it’s hard to come to terms with what’s happening on a spiritual level. We’re so used to living on the mundane physical plane without thinking about anything beyond this.

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They come to wake you up to a new level of consciousness. They do it by showing you what’s inside yourself and triggering you on a massive scale. Everything about your twin flame that bothers you is actually something about yourself. They’re personifying the things you don’t like about you. It can be excruciatingly painful.

My twin flame didn’t talk to me for a while after I first met him. He was going through some kind of dark night and I was discovering new layers of reality. I’ll always be grateful for that era, but at the time I was laughing hysterically as I told my friends how I thought I was losing my mind all the damn time. I couldn’t understand why I felt this intensity for a person who seemingly wanted nothing to do with me.

It’s wild to think that someone would forfeit the chance to be in a meaningful, beautiful relationship with someone who feels like their other half simply because they’re scared of owning their flaws, but that’s the rub. When you meet your twin flame, either you will feel an immense urge to run away, or they will. Perhaps you both will run in opposite directions.

They May Choose Someone Easier

It’s just easier being with someone who enables your habits and doesn’t draw attention to how you need to grow. Doing twin flame inner work is hard, so most people choose the easy way. So, your twin flame may be choosing a relationship with someone else — someone who doesn’t cause any friction. They want to keep the status quo, not face up to their problems.

People don’t seek out fissures in reality. It would be madness to wish for everything you know to show cracks and start to crumble.

As their twin flame, you are there to shake things up for them. They are also shaking up your world. They may need a period of time to explore relationships with others of lesser intensity so that they can truly understand the connection you have.

It’s a Huge Shift of Reality

The twin flame journey is intense and insane because reality shifts at such a breakneck speed. For me, it totally changed everything — creating a new life path that I am on now which is unrecognizable from the perceived path I was on two years ago. Is it this wild for you, too?

Some of us are very young when we meet our twin flames, and we have no context with which to measure this experience — only to find out later that it was a once-in-a-lifetime love. Some of us live until we’re middle-aged before we discover our twin flame in this lifetime, and we cherish the chance to have pure love. Either way, it is very difficult to actually be with this person because of the spiritual intensity. As humans, we are just not used to feeling this kind of transcendental love.

It’s Meant to Push You

You must look within. The universe designed this experience for you. If you’re lucky enough to meet your twin flame, you must recognize the gift you’ve been given. It’s painful and awful a lot of the time, but it is there to help your soul learn. Intentionally doing the inner work to heal is a pivotal choice on the twin flame path.

Most people can’t even imagine what it’s like to meet someone who mirrors them so well. You’re a soul that has reached a higher level, that’s why you’re being given this chance.

Learning about your own shadows through a relationship of this kind is a wild phenomenon.

You must heal. You must understand your own trauma. The karma you carry must be analyzed and processed. Most people don’t look within because it’s easier not to. You’re being forced to do it! This is a great lesson for your spiritual growth.

We Have to Be Brave

I meditated a lot and talked to the sky at night. I opened channels between myself and my spirit guides to ask constantly for assistance. I looked into my own heart to find which barriers I had erected against love. It was a deep dive into my own fears and shadow. It hurt a lot at times, and at other times it was a transcendental and beautiful experience. I needed to experience all of that in order to be a better human being and soul.

But most people run. Your twin flame is running because it’s scary. You have to be the strong one and commence the process of self-awareness and union with the universe. For both of you and for all of humanity, you’ll be doing a great thing just by focusing on your own self-love and doing the inner work.

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Hi, I’m Emily! I am also on the twin flame journey, as the experience of losing my twin flame awakened my psychic abilities and sent me on this path to help others.

2 Comments

  1. Stephanie Watson

    I have been on my own twin flame journey for 33 years believe it or not. I was warned of this relationship in two ways before it began. The first was through being given my natal chart by a local astrologer that literally told me about the luck of finding my best friend and partner. The second was predicted by a clairvoyant who warned me not to lose this relationship as it was to be a very valuable partnership. We met just before a massive global recession that ruined my first attempt at rescuing his business after just over one year of great progress. This left us running together away from the big city into a wonderful place that provided support for years as we struggled to recover from our joint financial disaster. A small community on the main highway heading north of our biggest city. We began there by working voluntarily on a large historical homestead in exchange for shelter by a large beach that was situated at the end of a long peninsula. Surrounded by sea and the sound of the waves at night we were soothed and given time to recover from all the stress we’d encountered from the complete collapse of our business and finances. Throughout the 33 years I have sometimes lost touch with the fullness of this experience and actually tried many times to escape the struggle. Often, I would tell myself this is too hard and I need to be free and independent. The truth of the matter is there is a balance to be found here (we are both Librans born 18 days apart in two separate countries 12,000 miles away from each other in 1950). Now the world is going through a much greater change with global financial stresses as well as many other problems but we are actually managing a lot better than we did last time it happened. This personal story has too much content to write fully about here but your Twin Flame stories have clarified so much for me.

    1. Stephanie, I am so sorry for the late reply on this comment, but thank you for reading and sharing. I am glad you find some clarity in my writing. Money in twin flame stories is a recurring topic I encounter, as money is just energy, so it represents an aspect of the energetic relationship. I hope all is well with you.

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