How to Let Go of Things You Can't Control - Emily Wellness and Oneness

It’s hard for most of us to release control. It seems like there’s no point in existing unless we’re making plans, identifying a destination, and giving ourselves purpose by creating a life that is exactly how we want it to be. We think that’s the definition of success. But I can tell you there is a point in existing even without all of these things. In fact, it’s a better way to exist if you just let go and let the universe take the driver’s seat.

You are part of a world that is only partly under your control. Can you guess which part that is? It’s your thoughts, feelings, and often, your actions.

Your Mind and Your Actions

Your mind is one hundred percent within the realm of your control. Unfortunately, most of us don’t realize the full implications of this and we allow the mind to control us. We become like slaves to the one thing that could be the key to our salvation.

But what about your actions? They are usually under your control, but let’s be honest, sometimes you can’t act on your urges and desires.

For instance, imagine that you want a yacht but you don’t have the funds to buy one and you are morally against stealing one. So, your actions are limited. You can’t achieve your goal because there are parameters in the physical world preventing it right now. At this point, most of us do everything we can think of to try to get closer to the yacht and possess it — we feel entitled to have it just because we conceived of the idea. But that’s not how the universe works. You don’t get everything you want just because you want it. You don’t have full control over your life, and I hope that at this point you realize that you never did.

You Can’t Control the Outside World

You can’t control a lot of your life because the outside world’s situations are largely out of your hands. Things you plan for may not be feasible. Things you have worked for may not be available to you, or, you may possess them but only for a short time. You may want to run a marathon but what if you have lost the muscular ability to move your legs? You may want to get to work on time, but you could be blocked by a traffic jam.

So, the only thing really under your control is your mind. Just focus on that. Most people don’t even try! Why? Because it requires looking within.

I promise that if you release control of what’s outside you and turn your awareness within, you will have a lot of answers. You’ll feel more at ease by understanding what you can control and what you can’t. It feels good to let go of the things we cannot control — which includes most of our “external” worlds.

Flip the switch in your mind that allows you to surrender to the universe.

Our society teaches us from a young age that when we work hard, we can achieve anything. It tells us to dream big — and of course, to pay a lot of money to universities and other services that will help you achieve your dreams. Anything they can sell you to get there, you’ll be able to find for sale on the market. But remember that these are all external things. Humans right now love to focus their awareness only on what’s outside them, never what’s inside.

Ironically, what’s outside you is out of your control. So, focusing on it will likely cause a lot of havoc, stress, and suffering in your life since it is largely unpredictable.

Surrender Control to the Universe

Sometimes, you can’t achieve your dreams. Maybe your dream wasn’t the path truly meant for you. So, the universe prevents it. It will prevent you from going toward the “wrong” things.

The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to acknowledge that the universe has a plan, and you’re part of it. Flow with the general current and don’t swim against it. Choose to focus within yourself and cultivate an inner world that is full of magic.

You can find inner bliss. Make this your dream, because it is the best thing when it comes true.

You have freewill, but when you exercise your freewill toward something that isn’t meant for you, no amount of effort will ever achieve it for you. You can struggle and try to force it, but it will never pan out. So, just surrender and let it all go. Use your freewill to become one with the universe.

Trust that you will find your true path. Utilize the full control you have over your mind to try to align with your purpose. Make inner choices to let go of things you chase. Allow them to be brought to you — if they’re meant for you. Let go of them if they’re not. The universe knows best.

You don’t need control. You just need to trust.

Rely on the magic that emanates from the unseen realm to guide you. I can say with certainty that whatever you’re truly meant to be doing is the one thing that will also fulfill you in every meaningful way. It’s something that has always been embedded in your being but you may not have allowed it into your awareness. Trust me, it will be something better than you can even imagine.

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