Meditation has become an essential part of my days, and with that new focus came an enhancement of the richness of my life. Every day I feel the calmness within me getting stronger, and the fear receding. I used to be tense, and there was anxiety in me even when I wasn’t aware of it, waiting to explode when things didn’t go right. I spoke to people often with a subconscious intention of steering the conversation to be negative. I also didn’t see the world around me clearly, and therefore could not think clearly. But I don’t do these things anymore. I want to show you how meditation changed my life and share five new experiences that I’ve noticed since I started meditating daily, and hope that it encourages others to meditate.
It’s incredible how the mind has power to completely change life’s perspective and experience, and all it takes is some intentional focus on reality for a small part of each day.
1. I enjoy interactions to the fullest now
Yesterday I was in my building parking garage, and a man was walking past with a broom as I was driving out. Police cars were coming in. In my old way of dealing with this situation, I would have been too afraid to open the window and too focused on myself to interact with him to find out what was going on in his world. But this has changed. Instead, I rolled down my window and he told me about some cars that had just been broken into. I could feel his feelings and I let him know that I was so sorry for him. We exchanged holiday greetings, filling each other with warm energy for a moment. These moments linger throughout the day and can aggregate to create a really high feeling.
The richness of that experience and so many others like it have given my life more meaning and happiness. Instead of passing strangers by, I crave their stories and the opportunity to exchange good energy with them. Since meditating, I feel a true sense of community among my fellow humans.
2. I stay calm when there are negative and excited emotions around me
It used to be hard not to absorb and mirror any negativity or emotional reactions in my vicinity. If someone was hurting my ego, which I was so dearly attached to, I would respond with anger and defense. If my child was having a raging tantrum, I would let the stress get to me immediately. It got ugly at times. It put me in a dark place at times.
Since meditating, I can be around someone losing their minds in anger, and have no reaction. I just stay in the moment and carefully observe their actions and words, knowing at a deeper level where it’s coming from. It is so clear now. I empathize, but I don’t take anything personally. It is freeing.
3. I’m not afraid anymore — of anything
My days now don’t consist of success or failure. I used to be low-level afraid of going to bed without having accomplished anything great. Or of using my time in any way that wasn’t beneficial to me. But now I’ve realized that there is no such thing as failure. As long as I live in the moment and I am giving and receiving love, there is no wasted moment.
Beyond this, larger fears are no longer a bother to me. Unemployment? I know things will work out. Sickness? I know it is part of life. Death? This is a natural ending, and the more I meditate, the less scary it seems. So many truths have surfaced that I’d suppressed from childhood, and one of them is that the spirit endures. When meditating, I see that my ‘self’ is just a character I am playing in order to manifest in this life. Everything is going to be okay. And when I live with an open heart, it will really be okay.
4. I’m nicer and less self-oriented
Lately, I truly give my energy to others and listen deeply. I used to approach other people with an element of distrust; I assumed they were acting selfishly, just as I was. I assumed they were not acting primarily in my interest, so they might betray me. But now, I come to others with an open heart. I see that we are all human, on the same path.
Meditation has made me recognize that our potential as humans is equal, and we are all essentially the same. A kind act toward another person is the same as a kind act toward the self. This feels like a default perspective for me now. Kindness toward others has so many beautiful outcomes for the world, and I can really feel the happiness created with each ‘nice’ act.
5. I don’t see evil anymore, just the workings of the universe
When I enter meditation, I am in such a place of balance that it becomes immediately clear that there’s no good or evil. All I see is the rise and fall of events, and things going in cycles. It’s wonderful.
In my daily life, I can still feel this as I interact with people. If someone’s actions are there to hurt me, I can see that there is a deeper reason for their actions and that they are pure souls. They are here to live and learn just as I am. Love is in them, just as it is in me. Even the evilest personalities on this Earth don’t seem that way anymore to me. They are all doing what they do for a reason. You might describe this as the ultimate form of forgiveness.
Meditation is a great tool to lower stress, get focused, and get more into a place of health. I hope that my story helps you heal and begin a meditation practice. Please reach out to connect if you would like to meditate with me, and check out my services and classes.
