Their behavior only causes havoc and separation. Narcissists are disconnected from their souls.
Narcissists have been a fascination for me over the years. I have been in various relationships with some. Since I’ve started seeing all people as souls having a human experience, I have approached narcissists differently. I try to see myself in them. I also don’t like using labels, and I want to try to see the narcissism that exists within us all. But can a narcissist be spiritual? I don’t see how – I’ve concluded that narcissists are disconnected from their souls and they are living almost entirely from an ego level.
But it could happen to any of us.
Psychology has its way of describing narcissists. I’ll tell you how to see them from a spiritual perspective.
Everyone on this planet is a soul incarnated into a human life. No one is inherently evil. We’re all just struggling to make sense of all of this insanity. We are all dealing with our unique set of circumstances and have found ourselves with certain habitual reactions and outcomes.
There is no one who is above anyone else as a soul, but some of us humans have lost our way.
Can a narcissist be spiritual? Spirituality requires a connection with the soul.
We all disconnect from our souls sometimes and find ourselves living from the level of the ego. Narcissists are just living from the level of the ego almost all the time. But all of us have that aspect within us. We are all possible narcissists.
The Signs of a Narcissist
A narcissist is someone who thinks the world revolves around them. They spend a lot of effort making themselves look good to others. They fall apart when someone pokes at their image or makes them look bad.
They often abuse others who are close to them because putting people down makes them feel better. They have a deep emptiness within them that they choose to distract themselves from by creating a persona. This persona strives to be “perfect” but it is unrealistic because no one is perfect. They strive to look tough and unbreakable but inside, they have raging emotions that they are refusing to deal with.
Narcissists rule with fear and live in fear. At any moment, their empire can come crashing down and they know it. So, they will do anything they can to avoid looking bad or allowing themselves to admit that they aren’t perfect. They’ll hurt others and cause havoc without remorse if they get in the way of having their perfect life. They can’t feel remorse because they can’t feel anything — they are disconnected from who they truly are.
They don’t know who they are because they are relating to the world through the ego instead of the soul.
What Is the Ego?
The ego is the part of you — or the level of you — that allows you to be in the world. It’s like a lens that your consciousness can experience life through. It gives you individuality. It creates a persona so that you can be a person. But it is just one layer of your existence, and the origin of you is the soul.
However, you couldn’t live as a human if you just lived from the soul level all the time. We must feel separate from other souls in order to learn important lessons here on Earth. That means we must have the experience of some separateness.
We can’t feel one with all of existence entirely or else we wouldn’t have the gift of struggling through human life, which is a treasure of lessons for the soul.
The ego is based in fear. The soul is based in love. The ego presents a challenge to the soul because it makes it hard to live from the heart all the time, which gives us a sense of love and bliss.
Your ego wants you to worry. It keeps anxiety levels high. It is afraid of everything that threatens survival in any way. It motivates you to create security measures in your life against undesirable situations and it’s constantly wondering what if?
The ego created the persona that you often believe to be the “real” you.
You think that you’re the same as the role that your soul is playing because of the ego. But you aren’t your job. You aren’t your role in your family life. You aren’t a person who likes smooth peanut butter strongly and watches daytime talk shows. You aren’t an angry person or someone who gets stressed easily — inherently. You’re a soul that’s experiencing life, and you can change any of your preferences or activities as a human any time you want. But the ego doesn’t allow you to see this clearly.
Narcissists and the Ego
Fear is where the ego operates. Narcissists live in fear. They don’t want to expose their soul — their true self — to the world. They have forgotten they have a soul and they’re constantly afraid of things falling apart. They see themselves as a character in a dangerous video game with threats coming at them all the time, and no one to trust.
They think that death is the worst thing ever because it’s the end of this story and this persona. And it’s true — when we die and this story ends, the ego is the only part of us that really dies.
Narcissists know that the world is constantly changing, but because they are totally in their egos, they are in constant fear of change.
They see themselves as nothing but what the ego presents — an individual without connection to others, who could be destroyed by other people in the world. All they see is status, money, and how other people can serve them. When they do something nice for someone, it’s always for some personal benefit instead of just because we are all one. They don’t remember that we are all connected and that we are more than our personas.
They forget that we persist even after death because death as we experience it is only the end of the ego, not the end of everything. They hold on tightly to what they’ve acquired in this life — status, possessions, and money— because they think without these things, they are nothing.
They think that everyone is here to compete against each other to reach some kind of success. This is how the ego operates because it comes from a place of fear and separation.
All ideas of oneness and connection are lost when you live entirely from the ego, and this leads to all kinds of problems. Can a narcissist be spiritual? I just don’t see how. Yet, there are levels of narcissism and levels of spirituality for sure, and they can sometimes coexist.
How to Be the Opposite of a Narcissist
We must all recognize the narcissistic tendencies within ourselves. We all have an ego that speaks to us in the language of fear. You must try your best to see life from the level of the soul: everything is connected. Everyone is in this life together. We are all here to help each other. Everything happens for a reason.
Stop fearing things that could happen and stay in gratitude for all that you have. Trust that things will work out how they’re meant to. Understand that we are all part of a whole — a great tapestry of the universe. We are all playing roles to make a great thing happen together as humanity. So, there is a reason for everything happening to you.
Approach every situation from a place of love instead of fear.
Hi, I’m Emily. In addition to writing, I also teach meditation, read tarot, create podcasts, and I’m a spiritual coach. I have a master’s in philosophy which often helps when I write about consciousness. For more about me, have a look at how I can help you.
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