I recently started to embrace the idea that I might be single until I die. I had been afraid of that notion. But when I finally became friends with it, I could face it better. Then, as I became more and more grateful for everything I have in the present moment, I could see how easily I could live just like this for ages. I have everything I need right now.
People may come and go in my life story, but I finally feel comfortable in my “alone” space. I have lately felt truly as if it doesn’t matter who is with me on this journey, I am going to be fine. I’ve been through a lot with relationships in my 40 years on Earth, and I can finally now value my own company.
Loving myself by feeding my body healthy, nourishing foods, and exercising has been transformational. I am still not perfect, but by putting energy into making myself the best I can be, I signal to the universe that I’m ready for the biggest and best of what life has to offer. And that’s been working to magnetize those good things toward me more and more.
I’m telling you this because I assume that you, too, are looking for a way to break free of your patterns. When we get dependent on other people for our happiness, we are trapped. We create our own prisons.
Breaking free isn’t easy because there’s a fear in all of us — a fear of being alone.
The trick is to become friends with this fear. Start to imagine yourself alone and happy — what would you be doing every day? Where would you live? What would make life vibrant and fulfilling? Be content with what you have now and don’t look for what you don’t have. This is how it works.
I still have amazing friendships that fill my days with joy and make me realize that I will always have someone there who has my back. I have people who care about me. I don’t necessarily need a romantic relationship all the time to be truly happy. I want to stop pining for that. I want to stop putting desperate energy into the universe as I search for that. I will instead retreat and just sit still.
It’s one of the biggest breakthroughs I’ve had in my life to truly love myself. I’m sure that I am still at the beginning of the journey, but I know what kind of power I wield — and it depends on no one except me. I understand the great shift that self-love causes.
I am fine alone and I could sustain this for a long time. Life can be beautiful if we’re grateful for the present moment and all it contains.
(I will add, however, that when you start practicing this true self-love and contentment with being single — that’s when romance starts to find you out of the blue.)
Keep finding joy in the little things in every moment.
Hi, I’m Emily. In addition to writing, I also teach meditation, read tarot, create podcasts, and I’m a spiritual coach. Thank you for reading.
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